For the past five weeks I’ve been attempting to plan a vacation to celebrate a milestone birthday for my husband. We decided we wanted to go on a river cruise on the Mekong with our whole family.
Two days ago, I finally realized I was trying to plan the wrong trip. How did I come to that conclusion?
Perhaps you’ve heard of athletes, actors, authors, or artists talk about being in the zone or the flow when they are performing their craft. Many people also recognize this “flow” as being in a state of alignment with God, Spirit, the universe, your higher self, or whatever language you choose.
The same concept of alignment applies to everything we do in life including something like planning a vacation.
Let’s look back over the past five weeks. After making the decision to go on the river cruise, somewhere around mid April, it took about another week or two to get online and do some preliminary research on dates and cabin types.
I sent a personal email to a woman I know who works for the company and never heard back from her. I thought that was odd as she’s always very responsive, but perhaps I had sent it to an email she doesn’t check often. I was not motivated enough to send a second email.
Then it was another two weeks before I discussed with family members what I’d learned. A few days later I called the cruise company and asked a few questions, but felt sort of ambivalent.
I next sent a “request for a quote” form in through the website and still never heard back from anyone. Are these people really ignoring me? I’ve always gotten prompt responses before.
But let’s take an even closer look. The whole time I was trying to research and plan, I felt tired and uninspired. Everything seemed so difficult. Not in the flow.
When I compare this with planning previous family vacations to New Zealand and Australia, I remember feeling excited, joyful and that everything was so easy to do - three definite signs of inspiration.
It finally dawned on me that this is not a vacation we are supposed to take. Once I let go of the idea that it had to be a river cruise, I immediately thought of an even better and easier way to celebrate my husband’s birthday. It turns out he had reservations as well about the cruise, but didn’t want to say anything to me.
When planning your trip, pay close attention to how you are feeling during the process. Frustration, fatigue, overwhelm, or boredom are signs that you are not in the flow (alignment) and perhaps this isn’t the right trip. I have hilarious stories of when I’ve ignored those feelings and forced travel, but those are for another time.